My point of view when it comes to recovery or substance use is much different than someone who is not living it every day. As a mother, I have learned to educate myself on substance use disorder. I wante to be aware of what can happen, what is happening and how I can cope with it as a mother. I want to have faith and believe in my child and love them where they are at.
The friendly fog… Well that is what I would call those who have a skewed point of view on things. Friends, family, community members and others who want to give advice on how to handle things and share what their opinion is. Well unless they really are educated on what substance use disorder is (a chronic neurological disorder according to the surgeron general) and want to be helpful instead of overly critical, I dont’ really want to hear what they have to say.
Not because I don’t care about them. However, I do not need eveyrone deciding what is right for me and my family. I have chosen to do a lot of research, seek a lot of advice from those who have experienced substance use disorder themselves or a loved one. I know it is not easy and I don’t believe in the theory “it is their choice”. Yes, of course the first time they use a substance, that is their choice. Somewhere along the line it becomes survival mode.
They are no longer using for “fun” they are using because it is a means of survival. The thought of withdrawing from whatever substance they are currently using is too much to bare. They have a skewed mind because the substance has damaged their brains. This is something we must take into account.
It most certainly is hard to listen when things are skewed. It is certainly hard to understand when our own point of view is skewed. Most of all it is hard to accept truths when we are stuck in a belief system that blames people with substance use disorders or mental health issues for their diseases. So stop telling others to go get “skewed” when we all need to make sure we know what we are talking about.